Comments on: Please beat your kids, Round 2

By: John

John — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 18:06:09 +0000

I’m a parent of three and was a kid once myself. I got hit maybe twice during my entire childhood. But my mom could yell for HOURS. Not to complicate things, but what’s the difference between that and a beating?
Anyhow, I think people are uncomfortable with the idea of using force in such an asymmetrical relationship. I get that. And yes, some kids were abused by parents, and that abuse often took the form of a beating. But none of that logically takes a good spanking off the table.
I agree with the basic premise that there’s a time and place for physical discipline. Certainly the threat of it. It’s not a pretty thing to admit, but the threat of violence is at the root of a lot of civilization. The best of us try absolutely everything else before we resort to it, and many of us would rather give up our case rather than turn to violence at the end. But when you’re in charge of a child’s upbringing, you don’t have the luxury of that sometimes.

By: Michael Bryan

Michael Bryan — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 10:21:58 +0000

I also agree. My grandfather raised me with a firm hand when needed and even after he has passed what I learned from it stays with me. If I tried to back talk my mom he corrected me. If I went into a public place and started making a scene for no reason, he corrected me again. I’m not going to lie and say I liked it, but it was a lasting lesson.

It’s not as though there are not people out there who take it to an abuse level and they should be punished for it, but spanking and abuse are on two seperate levels. Why should decent parents be seen as abusers when they’re simply trying to teach their child a lesson?

By: CLM

CLM — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 10:02:00 +0000

Just came across this post while using your awesome masking jquery plugin, and I absolutely agree with you. I was ‘beaten’ as a kid, for the right reasons, and I’m really greatful that my parents did actually discipline me. I see SO many of the current generation with absolutely no respect for anyone or anything. And it’s simply a lack of discipline. And discipline, unfortunately for all the human rights people, come in the form of a hiding every now and then if you dont listen. So yes, bravo to you for being a decent parent.

By: J.L.

J.L. — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 23:09:41 +0000

Well put, Josh.

re Caia Anca: the issue is “why do the right thing?” for example, why should a kid not yell and scream in a nice restaurant? Our answer is “because it’s the right thing to do,” right? So you speak with your kid, explain your reasoning, and ask them to be quiet. If they get quiet, great. No need for this blog.

If, however (and often is the case), they refuse to shut up, it’s because they don’t care about doing the right thing. According to Kohlberg, young kids do the right thing to avoid punishment, NOT because it’s the right thing to do. It’s time for an ass-whoopin. Therefore, WHILE you hit your kids with your belt, hand, etc, you explain your REASON for this current ass beating. Then, the next time you are in a restaurant, your kids will be quiet. Again, they’re not doing this because it’s the right thing to do; they are doing it because they know there’s a punishment involved with their acting out in public.

(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stages_of_Moral_Development)

Personally, I was hit as a kid, and I am FOR corporal punishment; I don’t resent my parents for it. I resent them for other reasons, hehe.

Hope this helps. Again, great post, dude.

By: Caia Anca

Caia Anca — Mon, 18 May 2009 08:52:49 +0000

It is not ok not beat your kids i have been beaten myself as a kid and i only ended up hating my parents . Im an addult 30 years old and i plan to have kids and i did read much about the subject on the internet , all i know its that i never want my kids or any other human been to suffer of the issues that i got becouse of how my parents treated me . If you are un open minded person try to find other solutions there must be thousands of ways on educating your kids . If you want them to hate you for it sure go ahead beat them up you will hate yourself later for it when the kids would break contact with you , you will end up lonely and all of this would be your own fault for not beying open minded enough .