SubscribePlease beat your kids
The world as we know it is coming to an end. Apparently Massachusetts thinks it should be illegal to spank your children. This is what is freaking wrong with our country! I see kids enough running around back talking their parents and raising enough hell as it is. You want to know why they do that? It's because they aren't scared. If you take away a parent's right to whoop the living hell out of their children, then you take away their ability to scare their kids.
I can't recall ever getting spanked personally. I'm sure I was probably smacked a few times just to remind me who was the boss. Here's what I do remember though; I remember my parents telling me that they would have no problems with doing so and hearing the stories from my friends of their father's belts. That was enough to keep me straight. It was FEAR that made me understand my parent's authority when I was growing up. That's what kept me out of trouble and made me the person I am today.
Please don't let our lawmakers pass laws that encourage our youth to be a bunch of spoiled sissies. If kids grow up without a backbone, then they'll act the same way as adults. It can't be pleasant to see a 50 year old man throw a temper tantrum. Just think about that.
Edit: Wow, I'm amazed at how much attention this post managed to bring. To read more of my thoughts on this, please read my follow up.
oh my god your a freaking idiot. how can fear make people better?!? if you want peace what you do is you sit children down and talk with them and show them respect. you wouldnt beat your girlfriend for doing something you didnt like would you? well maybe YOU would being a fear loving violent sadomasochist that you are. i dont see how we can move forward if we’re still lowering ourselves so low as to beat little innocent creatures. honestly, whats your deal!!
I have to say, someone with the name ninjarook shouldn’t be calling anyone else a freaking idiot.
I think the purpose of this post probably isn’t that parents actually need to beat thier children. I think the real meaning is that you shouldn’t be one of those parents who keep thier children in check with idle threats. Threats not meaning physicial fear, but anything that a parent could use to keep thier kids in line. That could mean taking away a favorite toy, going to time out. Many times parents will threaten a child with these actions if they don’t stop acting out but then never follow through with them.
This tells the child that it is okay to not listen to what the parent is telling them. A child has to be classically conditioned just like an animal does. A dog know when he goes outside instead of in the house he will get a treat. A child knows that when he is in Chucky Cheese and is screaming that he will be punished in some way for that. As long as the parent does it correctly the first couple of time while the child is testing his boudaries it won’t be required much after that. The child will know what will happen if they continue acting that way and will choose not to do it.
There is a difference in spanking your child and beating your child. Time out or other forms of punishment probably work just about as well as spanking your child. The key is just to follow through with the punishment whatever you choose to use as a parent.
@Brandon, I think that you got the point of my post. perfectly. It’s not necessarily about spanking your children, and more about showing them that you are the parent and that you are in control. At the same time, I don’t feel like the government should be able to take away that ability. As a parent, it is your responsibility to decide how to raise your children. I do feel that some kids need to be reprimanded with something physical because they might not respond to a “good talkin’ to”. It’s all circumstantial.
@ninjarook, We’ve been moving forward as a country up to this point with parents having the ability to spank their children. In fact, I’d say that current generations of kids are a lot more disrespectful and a lot less mindful of authority than my generation and those before me.
What’s my deal you ask? Well, my deal is that I think parents need to step up and raise their children right. If a parent has a kid that misbehaves and won’t respond to peaceful methods of discipline, then they should get after them with a belt. It won’t take too many spankings to make them think twice about what they are doing.
I don’t know what to say…I did not physically discipline my daughter while she was growing up and what I have ended up with is a disrespectful, nasty, selfish 18 year old who has beaten me up twice in the last 2 months. If she doesn’t get her way, she throws back her fist, punches, and kicks. Not only has it terribly hurt my feelings, but it has hurt me physically. I wish now I had spanked her as a child, as I was. I learned respect, fear, and love for my parents. I would never ever think of hurting my mother the way she has hurt me. I truly believe in “spare the rod, spoil the child now” when I was frightened by society to believe in it before.
I couldn’t disagree with your post more.
I was a rebellious child who used to push the envelope to see what I could get away with. For example, I ’stole’ my aunt’s car to teach myself how to drive and would often sneak out to be with my friends. I didn’t do this because I was a bad seed; I was merely adventurous and a free spirit.
To try to keep me in line, my stepfather whipped me often, bare-bottomed, with a paddle called the ‘El-Kabong’ that had handgrips carved into it, and a thick steel-ringed leather belt that left welts on the insides of my thighs. That was child abuse and I never forgave him nor talked to him after I left home at 17. In fact my mom divorced him several years later and he may be dead for all I know or care (I rather hope he is, so I guess I do care after all).
My wife’s father beat her and her three siblings within inches of their lives in a systematic and brutal way that makes my stepfather look like Mr. Rogers. She has been in therapy for the last seven years and has spent two years in a psychiatric hospital because of depression and anger.
I grew out of my rebellious phase and I now have my own business and have an 18-year-old daughter, on whom I have never laid a hand in anger. I have always treated her as a person of importance and as someone worthy of my respect even, especially, when she does something that I think may be harmful to her. She is an incredibly well-behaved young woman. And even though she sometimes does stuff with which I don’t agree, as any young adult will, she knows that if she gets too far down the wrong path she can always come home again (not that I expect she’ll choose the wrong path).
It is my feeling that people who beat their children only perpetuate the cycle of violence in our world. Violence begets violence. Ignorance begets violence. I am all for the Massachusetts law (my home state, by the way) because there are a lot of ignorant and violent people out there and children shouldn’t be defenseless against their own parents.
You are all idiots!!! i only agree with ninjarook and rus so far. Who ever f***ing wrote this is probably some f***ing sick twisted crazy rapist who will be locked in jail someday for the longest day! if your child disobeys, the very worst you can do is yell. you dont want your child to fear you. We are children ourselves. we are only 12, and were pissed. We know our rights and this sick f*** is disgusting. My mom doesent hit me and i respect her more than anyone. my dad yelles occasionally, but hes never hit me and i respect him too.your child will disrespect you if you hit them and when they get older there going to be insaine drug dealers and try to kill you. My boyfriend is insainly abused, and hes now 16 and hes punched his mom a few times and hes already moving out. See what happens if you hit your kid? they hate you! f*** you to all you child abusers!!!!! i hope you f***ing burn!!! you ruin your child when you beat them!!!!
Edited by Josh: If anyone is going to swear on my blog, it’s going to be me. So, watch your damn language.
Paddle your kids, send them to time out, or take away toys. All of these things are negative reinforcement and all work about the same way. It comes down to how you as a parent choose to discipline your children. Don’t beat your kids if you don’t want to parent that way, but at least use some form of discipline so that they don’t end up out of control.
In an ironic way Claudia and Taylor’s comment above is helping to prove the point of this post. What does it say about the parents of a 12 year old that let’s their child post profanity on a stranger’s blog. What does it say about their parents that she is 12 and has a boyfriend that is 16? There is zero chance that I would ever let my 12 year old daughter be dating. If in some dazed state of consciousness where I lost all touch with reality and did let my 12 year old daughter date, there is no way I would let her date someone that was 16.
So many things come down to a lack of discipline and poor parenting which helps to prove the point of the original post.
Josh, I agree with you. I am 16, and I am in the position you were when you were a kid. I was never beaten (not that I can remind of), but my parents always had the command, and I never do anything to hurt them or disrespect them in anyway. I had kids in my school who complained about their dads beating them up. Like you, I got conscious of what could happen to me, and it’s natural for me now. Sometimes I wish I could talk back to my parents, to tell them how I feel about something they are doing that doesn’t please me. But I never do. I just get to the computer, and program some more. I know they are who tells the orders in the house. (And if my parents EVER want to punish me for anything, taking the computer from me, not allowing me to program… that alone makes me shiver x). In fact, I’d rather be spanked hard than have the computer taken from me.
I agree, Brandon. The problem nowadays is that parents go “You won’t be able to play on your PS/XBOX/whatever the kids have” and then they never do it. So the kids misbehave once more. And once more they get away with it.
And the number of cases we see nowadays of kids beating their parents or just ignoring them (heck the other day I saw on TV a 13 year old taking drugs at home, and when her mother came, she just punched her and slammed the door on her face) are increasing dramatically. Because parents say “we know how it hurt when it was done to us, so let’s not educate that way”, and they don’t educate at all…
Just my opinion.
P.S. And like it did to you, Josh, it kept me out of any problems, vices, or sillinesses other teenagers have. Except for programming, I have no other addiction :).
i am a mom and i know for a fact that your kids should not be hit or anything…let them be in controll…then you willl have no reason to be them they will have what they want and will always be happy…and yes my kids are way spoiled but i don’t beat them and they don’t cry